This morning we are learning about an important weed we need to dig out and feed the soil with some life giving nutrients.
The Weed – Boredom
This friendship is so special! Being married is fantastic! Having children is so much fun! Work is invigorating! My Life Group at church is an amazing growth opportunity! Sunday church is awesome! Serving on this team is so exciting!
AND SO IT SHOULD BE!
Relationships are interesting, engaging, stimulating and fun. That is why we enter them. They promise to invigorate and enrich our lives with their momentum and energy.
The problem is that in the fertile soil of these life-enriching relationships, there lies a seed. It is ever present, just waiting for conditions to ripen. Once the excitement has died down a bit, it will start to pop its green shoots through. It waits for the honeymoon period to pass, the initial enthusiasm to fade, the excitement of the launch to become a memory, the fresh start to seem an age ago. Then up it pops and announces itself with the words, “I’m bored!” That seed belongs to weed called boredom.
Everything in life can become boring, if we let it. And “letting it” is the issue. This relationship-choking weed can only take significant hold if we allow it. Let’s be honest, we have all become bored in a relationship at one time or another. Marriage can become stale and boring. Family life can disintegrate in to round of monotonously repetitive elements. Church becomes the “same old, same old” pattern. Just boring. Work is tediously repetitive. Flat boring. Before long you come to regard your town or city as boring, your friends and family as boring and life itself as boring. “Aaaargh! I just need some fun” you cry.
That cry is your first mistake.
The cry implies fun comes from others, from outside of you. Fun is out there somewhere, you just need to go and get it – or so your think. The world is full of people sat by tropical pools in exotic places who are bored out of their minds. They spent thousands of pounds to get there to “have some fun”, but to their dismay they have discovered that the problem is they are there too! And they are boring!
Life is routine. It has monotony built in. We do the same thing every single day of our lives. The only thing that changes is our attitude to those things and whether we choose to make them fun or not.
The Feed – Make it Fun
As parents we manufacture fun for our children. We pull silly faces and put things in front of them to occupy them. But only until they are old enough to begin creating their own entertainment. As they grow, we expect them to develop interests and become interesting people.
You do not need to have fun, you need to be fun. Relationships are enriched immensely when we do the routine things in life in a fun way.Attitude is everything.
Be the fun you seek and spread it around all your relationships. Because if you don’t, the weed of boredom will soon smother the ground with its choking roots and the relationship will slowly stagnate.
Listen to the words of Solomon:
So I commend the enjoyment of life, because there is nothing better for a person under the sun than to eat and drink and be glad. Then joy will accompany them in their toil all the days of the life God has given them under the sun. (Ecclesiastes 8 v 15)
Go, eat your food with gladness, and drink your wine with a joyful heart, for God has already approved what you do. Always be clothed in white, and always anoint your head with oil.
Enjoy life with your wife, whom you love, all the days of this meaningless life that God has given you under the sun—all your meaningless days. For this is your lot in life and in your toilsome labor under the sun.
Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with all your might, for in the realm of the dead, where you are going, there is neither working nor planning nor knowledge nor wisdom. (Ecclesiastes 9 v 7 – 10)
What a great attitude to life. The key to making life fun is to remember where life comes from – God. Both these verses make the point that we are to enjoy the life “God has given”. Gratitude to God makes the Christian relish life, value its potential and enjoy every moment.
Fun is injected into your relationships by your attitude. It cannot be brought, borrowed or fabricated. It is something we just have to be. By being creative, keeping the mood light and relishing every moment. Learn to enjoy every moment of every day. Savour the relationships, thank God for the moments spent together, hug that child of yours and just enjoy the moment.
“A cheerful heart is good medicine” (Proverbs 17 v 22)