This morning, we begin to look at the subject of our relationship as Christians with sex.
When you examine the Word of God it is unashamedly open in dealing with the issue of sexuality and the delights of marriage between a male and a female. Whether it is found in Proverbs, the Song of Solomon, Paul’s writing to the Corinthians, or Peter’s comments in his letters, there seems no shame in speaking openly about that which God created naturally. God has always intended for mankind not only to enjoy, but to be open concerning the areas of sexual expression within marriage. An example of how the Bible celebrates sex within marriage is found in the following passage warning people about adultery. Proverbs 5 v 18 – 19
May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer — may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be intoxicated with her love.
The writer uses poetic language as he speaks about sexual energies and drive between a man and a woman.
The Song of Solomon as a Book would probably be the foremost demonstration of God’s openness in discussing sexual issues with humanity. The Book deals with the sexual intimacy of the married couple, over an extended period of years. Apparently young Jewish Men if they were unmarried were prevented from reading this Book before they were 30 years of age. It deals with foreplay, sexual pleasure and lovemaking.
In the New Testament probably the Corinthian Culture would have to have been the most sexually promiscuous in apostolic times. Yet, Paul writes directly concerning sexual issues when he writes to this sex-soaked Corinthian Culture. If the Apostle Paul found it necessary, amidst a culture that was sexually debauched, to raise the issues of purity and the beauty of God’s approach to marriage, then the same is necessary today. We are living in a society that we may call: “Corinth Revisited”. There is a need for a clear restatement of biblical values.
The Word of God is the same today as it was yesterday and should not be diluted because it does not fit today’s culture.
Genesis 2 v 24 – 25
That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.
Matthew 19 v 4 – 6
“Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
1 Corinthians 6 v 16
Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, “The two will become one flesh.”
The Bible uses the beautiful expression “one flesh” to epitomize the sublime unity, beauty and affinity between two individuals, brought into a single relationship through marriage. It expresses far more than the simply the sexual side of our nature. Being “one flesh” is much grander than even the concept of sex.
Here is a quote from “Created Sexual and Enjoying it” by Ivan and Pauline Herald
“Sex is the beauty of open nakedness, and yet the wonder of hidden mystery between a couple. It is a strong embrace and yet the gentleness of a hand upon a cheek, and the warmth of gentle hand holding. Our sexuality is more than just the passion and energy of a honeymoon couple, as important as that is. It is also the tears of joy on wrinkled faces as an aged couple still hold hands at their Golden Wedding Anniversary. Our sexual expression is a love note on a pillow, a rose accompanying a morning cup of tea, laughter and fun, a quiet look and wink across a room”.
Sex is meant to enrich our lives, not debase it.
It is not meant to be all of life, but somehow mysteriously expresses the intimacy of life. It not only reveals our partner, it reveals also ourselves. It is the vulnerable area of our lives. Sex is the area of exposure, not just physically, but in every way.
Sex within the loving relationship of marriage is a gift from God. Tomorrow we will begin to look at the warnings that God gives in regard to this gift.